Archive for the ‘Help for Families’ Category
Parenting Sites
This YMCA sponsored site offers a state-by-state resource guide of social services for families. Find out information about family activities too!
Find here: a federal resource guide of information on several family issues and concerns.
Children and Adults with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder website
Parents Leadership Institute: learn about available parenting education resources.
Find expert information here on how to help your child get the most out of their education and environment.
Find great articles and links to parenting information.
Support for Single and Divorced Mothers
www.freshstartafterdivorce.com
This site is run by the National Association of Divorce for Women and Children. You will find a great site that provides information on networking, connecting to mentors, articles, legal information and more.
This is an all-encompassing website for information on life after divorce.
Woman can find information here on ways to rebuild their lives after divorce, as well as information on emotional, legal, financial, etc. issues.
www.lovetoknow.com/Help_for_Divorced_Women
Find here: information on Military Law on Child Support, Green Card divorce, Child Support and other legal resources.
There are educational resources, financial guidance and career options listed here for single moms. Find some fun things too for kids.
Find information here on governmental loans and grants for single moms.
This is an on-line magazine, “Myria” for single mothers.
Support for Single and Divorced Dads
You will find advice on separation, legal information, articles, child support calculators and more on this website.
Find here: parent networks to connect with other parents, comprehensive parenting guide for moms and dads, articles on various divorce-related topics (updated regularly) and more on this website.
This is a forum for single dads that offers advice and support.
www.singledadfinancialhelp.com
Find here: links to financial resources (including loans and help from the government), medication help/information, information on purchasing low-cost groceries and much more.
The National Center for Fathering: “to inspire and equip men to be better fathers.”
Find fathering tips, cooking ideas, cleaning information, support groups, resources and info. on legal matters and more fatherhood resources.
Find here: tips on parenting for dads, health information, Question and Answer, discussion groups, research, policy and practice.
National Fathers’ Resource Center…find a site with comprehensive information for divorce-related information and tips for divorced dads.
Dads Are Parents Too…a site that encourages collaborative parenting with mothers and fathers.
Divorce-related websites:
This website has a variety of articles for parents and children. The information includes communication skills and coping ideas to help throughout one’s lifetime.
This site includes resources and information on divorce as well as a guide to locate professionals that can assist with the transition.
Information about the legal process and laws around divorce for each state.
Regularly updated information about support groups (by zip code) for parents. Also, a list of suggested reading material.
Information on federal, state and international laws around divorce. There is also book and article suggestions and parenting plans listed here.
You will find on this site a computer based parenting calendar program.
This site provides information about the impact of divorce on families. There is a portion that includes information on legal, real-estate, psychological and financial advice.
This website includes a lot of information on legal, financial, parenting, etc. aspects of divorce. There is a special portion of this website called, “Total Parenting Handbook” which includes excellent advice on parenting as a divorced parent.
Here you can find message centers, child support calculations by state, divorce-related reading material and more.
The website for the non-profit organization; “American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers.”
The Children’s Rights Council website. You will find here information about this non-profit organization that assists children of separation and divorce.
Children of Separation and Divorce Agency. This website offers great reading information for children.
Phone bill help for families
Cars: Donate to a good cause or maybe get a car for your family…
St. Mathews Lutheran Church
Refurbished car program
They donate free cars to people in need. Call to get an application. There is a one year waiting list.
503-644-9148
Union Gospel Mission
Sell refurbished vehicles to general public: The person I talked to said they may consider case by case basis, sliding scale for very low income depending on need.
Tigard Store 503-639-6488
Portland Rescue Mission
8301 NE Halsey St, Portland
Open 9:30-6pm
They have refurbished car and are able to guarantee work on the cars. The lowest priced cars that they offer are in the $600-$650 range. They are currently supporting men in treatment as well as a shelter for battered women and children. All cars sold off their lot are in running condition, and have been thoroughly checked over and refurbished. 503-906-7673/503-320-9564
St Vincent de Paul
Sell their cars through Speeds Super tow every Tuesday at 14325 NE Sandy Blvd. The lot is open at 8am and the auction begins at 10am. Their cars are divided into 3 categories: non-running, running with problems, and running well. The lowest priced cars are usually selling around $200. The money for the car is due by the end of business on that Tuesday. The cars for auction can be viewed at: . 503-595-2281
Metropolitan Family Services
Ways to Work
Qualifications for this loan program include: credit score below 640. You cannot be in a bankruptcy while applying for this loan. Terms of the loan are currently as follows: 8% fixed rate, for 24 months. This equates to $135/month on a $3,000 car, up to $270/month on a $6,000 car. If the car is over $4,500, the loan may be extended to 30 months to lower the payment. Cars purchased through this program MUST go through a certified car dealer, and they provide a list of disallowed dealers, as well as recommended dealers.
Must be working 20 hrs/week for 3 months
Must buy car between $3,000-$6,000
503-232-0007 x 207
Salvation Army Car Program
Don’t give away cars, but they do accept vehicle donations and they will sell them. They use the proceeds to fund their program.
Volunteers of America
Don’t give away cars, but they do accept vehicle donations and they will sell them. They use the proceeds to fund their program.
503-239-7900
Written by: Kalene Ardt
Dental Resources, Portland Metro Area
Dental Resources
Pacific University
503-352-7373 Appointments
Cleaning and exam is $45. Full set of x-rays is $25. Other services available at reduced rates. Payment plans available for low-income uninsured
Call to schedule a free screening appointment. No walk-in services.
Virginia Garcia Memorial Health Center
503-359-8505 Program phone
$30 for exam. Other services available on a sliding scale fee.
Call to make an appointment. New patients accepted as schedule permits
Oregon Health Sciences University
(503) 494-6822
Regular Hours: Monday-Friday 8am-5pm Emergencies: Monday-Friday 7:45-5pm Open some Saturdays for children’s emergencies only.
OHP open, OHP Capital Dental or ODS Community, private insurance, sliding scale or $100-200 due at time of service.
For urgent care, patients with no dental insurance and those with OHP. Must be in office by 7:45am, then wait for name to be called from a sign in sheet. Must have OHP card with you and/or proof of income.
Portland Community College
503-977-4909
Fees: $40 cleaning, $25 x-ray (check in case these have changed)
Call for appointment. Must first receive a 30-45 minute screening, then return for services
Multnomah County Dental Access Program
503-988-6942
Written by: Heather McDowell
Parenting Tips for dealing with divorce– from the Marion County Oregon Circuit Court Page
Dealing With Divorce
Top 10 list of things parents can do to help their children adjust to family change:
- Offer simple explanations about the changes in the family. Children especially need to hear what will not change, i.e. will attend same school, will continue with swimming lessons, will keep their dog, etc.
- Reassure children many, many times that the changes are not their fault. They didn’t cause it, they can’t fix it, but you will help them cope. You can’t say this enough.
- Help your children accept that divorce is a final decision.
- Do not allow your children to become your peers. Avoid confiding in and relying on them as you would a good friend. Children do not do well while attempting to meet adult emotional needs.
- Do involve your children in household chores and decisions. Tell them that their input is valuable. Feeling needed in this way is a good thing.
- Do not give up your power as a parent out of guilt. Your children need clear and enforced limits now more than ever. Because the changes cause insecurity, children will test those limits to see if you are for real. Set limits and consequences with calmness and clarity.
- If one parent drops out of your child’s life, say: “I don’t know why your mother/father hasn’t made arrangements to see you, but I know one thing, it has nothing to do with you! You are very lovable and I enjoy being with you very much.”
- Do not criticize the other parent. It directly affects children’s identities. They see themselves as half Mom and half Dad. When one parent is labeled stupid or lazy, children assume they must be thought of that way too. And it actually causes them to think less of the criticizer in the long run.
- Do not put children in the middle by using them as spies when visiting the other parent, by asking them to carry messages back and forth, or by expecting them to take sides between parents.
- Listen. Take time before bedtime, in the car, on Saturdays to listen. Begin by saying you know it has been hard for them. Repeat their words back to them. Let them know that all their feelings are OK and talking about them really helps.